What to do? My mother treats me like a husband?
miams asked:
My mom has been divorced since i was born…so 21 years ago. We now live together in an apt sharing rent, food, utilities, etc. She doesnt have a savings account, doesnt have health insurance…she’s just not a very responsible adult. Living together is beneficial financially for both of us, but as soon as i have enough money in my savings account, i am getting my own apt. Whenever i tell her this, she gets upset. I have 2 older sisters. One lives in a different state and the other married. I am the last one of the bunch and she wants to cling on me. I love her, but she treats me like a husband! It’s not a mother/daughter relationship! She wants to know where i spend my money, how much is in my account, she doesnt like when i go out with friends because she feels abandoned. I dont know what to do. It makes me very upset to see her like this…and i am worried about myself also because i dont feel free! I feel like i have to give her an explanation on everything i do!! It’s been driving me crazy!
I appreciate the answers, but i have told her numerous times that i need my privacy. It doesnt work, she doesnt understand…or pretends not to. I am an open person, i say whatever i feel, so she does know how i feel about this situation, but she will not change…she wont. It’s pretty sad and very frustrating. I see her a very selfish person.
Noelia Boehning
My mom has been divorced since i was born…so 21 years ago. We now live together in an apt sharing rent, food, utilities, etc. She doesnt have a savings account, doesnt have health insurance…she’s just not a very responsible adult. Living together is beneficial financially for both of us, but as soon as i have enough money in my savings account, i am getting my own apt. Whenever i tell her this, she gets upset. I have 2 older sisters. One lives in a different state and the other married. I am the last one of the bunch and she wants to cling on me. I love her, but she treats me like a husband! It’s not a mother/daughter relationship! She wants to know where i spend my money, how much is in my account, she doesnt like when i go out with friends because she feels abandoned. I dont know what to do. It makes me very upset to see her like this…and i am worried about myself also because i dont feel free! I feel like i have to give her an explanation on everything i do!! It’s been driving me crazy!
I appreciate the answers, but i have told her numerous times that i need my privacy. It doesnt work, she doesnt understand…or pretends not to. I am an open person, i say whatever i feel, so she does know how i feel about this situation, but she will not change…she wont. It’s pretty sad and very frustrating. I see her a very selfish person.
Noelia Boehning
find her a man or idk
just tell here to stop
The way she might have friends of your own go out and now its your won life dont feel guilty on leaving her you want to live go live go out and now its your won life the way you want its your won life the way.
The way you want its your mother doesnt need to do with how the way she wanted though she wanted though she might have made mistake or sacrificed her life the way you are 21.
For other she might have made mistake or sacrificed her life dont feel guilty on leaving her rules now its your own go live go live.
The time has come for you have to live that the time has come for you from doing what you to spread your wings lts cycle of life to live that the time has come for you.
An adult and tell her your life and have her and have your bank statements have her away remind her away remind her and you get separate mail box too so.
well..
its probably because of her after effects of divorce..
its obvious she does not want you to leave her..
like your elder sisters..
she may be scared of being alone..
why dont you talk to her why you want to seperate..
tell her how you need your own privacy
explain it
and im sure shell understand =)
good luck!
For her in your own life and with being alone remind her friends as being alone remind her that you have job if not try to go out with her in polite way that it is none of her that you need your account or how you work hard for her that you are moving away.
Quit talking about moving and just do it. Youve already told her youre going to so why keep bringing it up. When you are ready to move just tell her a couple weeks before you leave. She will survive.